Hi friend —

I hope this finds you enjoying the summer, if you’re in our climate zone. And if you’re somewhere it’s winter right now, I hope you’re wrapped up warm. Things are quieter than usual around here, and I wanted to tell you why.

Teddy is recovering.

Our eight-year-old labradoodle, Teddy, had knee surgery last Tuesday. He tore his ACL and meniscus chasing squirrels in the yard. Teddy’s surgeon told me that he gets most of his referrals from squirrels! Teddy has a slow, six-week recovery ahead of him, with no walking except to go outside to potty.

We had to cancel the camping trips we’d planned for the next six weeks. It’s a bummer, but we want Teddy to heal so he can get back to his walks. Our 19’ Airstream, Bambi, is parked in the driveway for the summer, waiting on us. Our next adventure is a drive to Sisters, Oregon, for the annual Quilters Affair classes before the quilt show the first week of July. I can’t wait to be in nature again!

You can see in the photo above how Teddy feels about wearing the Cone of Shame. If your pet has ever had surgery, you know it well — it keeps him from licking or worrying at his stitches while he heals. But oh, those sad eyes.

Teddy’s a sweetheart and my best buddy. He’s my sidekick, coming where I go through the day whenever he can. Animals and nature are vital to me, and I don’t ever want to be without my animal friends as I age. Fingers crossed.

Me with Bambi, our 19’ Airstream.

Humans wear an invisible Cone of Shame, too.

The invisible cone we all wear

Here’s what I keep thinking about. Teddy’s cone is right there for everyone to see, and it’s doing its job — keeping him from licking the very wounds that need to heal.

We wear an invisible one, too. We call it shame.

Shame is one of the lowest, densest energies we carry. David Hawkins, PhD, MD, spent fifteen years developing his Map of Consciousness — a logarithmic scale running from 1 to 1000, with enlightenment (Buddha, Jesus) at the very top. Shame calibrates at just 20: the very bottom. Hawkins described it as bordering on death itself. (There’s a wonderful interview with Kevin Scobey, a facilitator of Hawkins’ work, if you’d like to go deeper.)

The cruel thing about shame is that, unlike Teddy’s cone, ours is invisible — so it grows in secret. And nothing stops you from doing the thing you long to do quite like shame you’ve never spoken aloud.

So this August, I’ll host a Zoom Gathering on how to release shame from your body — to get it out into the light before it can take root and spread.

**That Gathering is free for paid subscribers**, along with every monthly Gathering — including How to Use Fear as Rocket Fuel, How to Be Resilient, The Spiritual Practice of Aging, and the 100-Day Visualization Project. If you’d like to join a warm community of people growing more resilient as we age, you can become a paid subscriber for $5/month or $50/year. I’d love to have you with us.

Hit reply and tell me one fun thing you’re doing this summer— I read every response, and I’d love to picture where you are.

Join us — I think you’ll be glad you did.

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Hey friend —

I want to tell you about my friend Delayne.

Her house had been on the market for a month. She was getting frustrated, worried, starting to doubt the process. She had been working hard — using Dr. James Doty’s neuroscience-based visualization methods and Colette Baron-Reid’s meditative drawing practice to rewire her brain and get her home sold.

Since January 6, she had been drawing with intention. Bubbles of gratitude. Spirals to expand the frequency. She wrote her goal at the top of the page:

To evolve = the evidence of intention.

“I wanted to write and draw a love note to the Universe,” she told me. “Just looking at it made me feel calmer.”

On April 21, a two-bedroom, two-bath apartment became available — number 328, which in numerology is a number of stability. She signed the lease on May 2. Now she was ready to sell the house.

She made a new drawing to release it. Six frequency lines with the house as a portal, gratitude bubbles around the center. She visualized a buyer, thanked them and the house, and let it go.

And then — nothing. A month on the market. No offers.

That’s when I called her.

I told her to try something: stop talking about wanting to sell the house and start talking about it as if it had already happened. Speak in past tense. Feel the relief. Feel the excitement. Let your nervous system experience the outcome before it arrives.

Here’s the text I received from her last week:

“On Sunday 5/10, I spoke with you. You told us to say, ‘We are thrilled our home has sold.’ We have done that. And I took it one step further. I invited my two realtors over and we had a champagne toast: ‘We are thrilled the house has sold!’ On Friday, we got an offer. We countered, they countered back, and we accepted today. It worked! Thank you!”

Five days after the champagne toast, the house sold.

I am not telling you this is magic. I am telling you this is neuroscience.

What your brain is actually doing when you visualize.

Your brain is a prediction machine. It is constantly simulating the future based on past experience, asking: what’s likely to happen next?

When you visualize a desired outcome vividly and emotionally — feeling the relief, the pride, the gratitude as if it has already happened — your brain cannot fully distinguish between what you imagined and what actually occurred.

Research by Pascual-Leone established that mental rehearsal produces structural neural changes comparable to physical practice. The same neural circuits fire whether you are doing something or vividly imagining doing it.

This is why emotionally charged visualization creates stronger neural imprints than detached thinking. Your amygdala and limbic system act like amplifiers — the more emotional weight a goal carries, the more the brain tags it as meaningful and begins orienting toward it.

Here is the key insight behind past tense: when a desired future feels unfamiliar, the brain may not recognize it as relevant even when it is deeply desired.

Visualization familiarizes the brain with the outcome so that when opportunities appear, you notice them. You recognize them. You act.

Delayne’s brain — and her realtors’ brains — had already been to the closing. They had already felt the celebration. When the offer arrived on Friday, it wasn’t foreign. It was familiar. Expected, even.

James Doty, neurosurgeon and founding director of Stanford’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education, recommends visualizing your intention for five minutes daily, writing it down, and repeating it out loud. Repetition is key — it is one of the primary ways new neural pathways are created in the brain.

Write it in past tense. Feel it as if it’s done. Let your nervous system experience the future you’re building.

And if you have a friend and a bottle of champagne — even better.

What this means for your 100-Day Visualization Project

This is exactly what we are practicing together on June 2 in our Zoom Gathering for paid subscribers. To join as a paid subscriber, the link is below.

I want to coach anyone who is hitting a wall — because there is always a thought or a fear that shows up when you go for something that matters. That is not a sign to stop. That is the sign that you are close to something real.

Not wishful thinking. Not positive affirmations pasted on a mirror. A deliberate daily practice of familiarizing your brain with the outcome you are moving toward — so that when the path appears, you recognize it.

My own update: I haven’t written in my visualization journal every single day. But I’ve picked it back up and kept going. I have written two of the four memoir chapters I wanted to complete by July 31st finished and in revision. I might actually be ahead of schedule.

Progress, not perfection. That’s the whole point.

Join me Tuesday, June 2 at our Zoom Gathering on the High Road.

If you’d like to become a paid subscriber, it’s only $5 a month or $50 annually.

I offer you monthly workshops on topics that will keep you on the high road - a path in life that is filled with courage, consciousness, expansion, gratitude and wisdom.

You can sign up now and I’ll send you the materials from our first Gathering. We’ll meet on June 2 and once again in July to stay on track.

Come as you are. Bring your wins and your struggles. Both are welcome.

Tuesday, June 2 / 1 – 2:15 pm PT / 2 – 3:15 pm MT / 3 – 4:15 pm CT / 4 – 5:15 pm ET / 9 – 10:15 pm GMT

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I’ll see you on the high road. — Sherold

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Part 3 in the Unbreakable Series

Last month, I promised you something. I said there is a part of you that was never broken to begin with — and that it has a name. This week I want to tell you what it is.

Before the near-fatal accident I survived in 2017, I went through two unimaginable traumas and came out the other side traumatized but inspired to thrive. When my youngest brother, Byron, was killed in 2005 (it’s a 21-year cold case in Knoxville, TN), I knew that his death had meaning for me, but I got involved in the case trying to help keep it alive. I didn’t realize I was in prison in my mind suffering, while the perpetrator was free. I was in a Byron Katie intensive that weekend and set myself free. I had a Jungian analyst I worked with during this tragedy and for the next decade. This suffering set me on the path of personal growth. I turned toward my higher power for faith and guidance.

Then in 2012, when my son landed in the ER at age 28 with a health condition that was later diagnosed as a rare genetic disease that needed immediate medical interventions, I was on my knees again going through what all parents call “the unimaginable.” I found a calm place inside me that guided me. An acquaintance once told me she thought it was weird that I was so calm.

I have been in the void between life and death.

During my third abdominal surgery at Sharp Memorial Hospital in San Diego, the anesthesia came, I went under, and I found myself somewhere that had no edges, no floor, no ceiling, no wall to reach for. I had nobody. I noticed this without alarm — the way you might notice in a dream that the rules have changed.

And what I found there was not nothing.

What I found was pure love. Pure peace. Pure awareness. No fear. No story about who I was or what I had failed to be. No past to defend and no future to manage. Just — this. Vast space that was alive with spirit, abounding love, unhurried, completely at home with itself.

That was the Self.

Not something I achieved. Not something I earned through decades of spiritual practice. Something I simply was, when everything else was finally quiet enough to let it through.

I came back from that experience changed in a way I am still learning to describe. It’s hard to use our language to describe this liminal space. But the most important thing it showed me was this: underneath everything I had constructed — the businesses, the self-sufficiency, the belief that I had to earn my place — something was there that had never needed any of it. Something whole. Something that could not be broken because it had never been in danger.

Carl Jung spent his entire career trying to name this.

He called it the Self — always with a capital S — and he distinguished it carefully from the ego.

The ego is the small self. The constructed self. The accumulated identity built from childhood wounds, small ‘t’ traumas, social roles, survival strategies, and the stories we tell about who we are and what we deserve. The stories we spend our entire adult life suffering from.

The Self is something else entirely. Jung described it as the totality of the whole psyche — not just the conscious mind, but the vast depths beneath it, the organizing intelligence that is trying to move us toward wholeness whether we cooperate or not.

And here is what Jung said that stopped me completely the first time I read it:

At its deepest level, the Self is indistinguishable from the image of God within us.

It is our point of contact with the divine. What we call God and what we call the deepest Self are, in the end, the same encounter.

Jungian psychologist Edward Edinger put it this way: psychological development in all its phases is a redemptive process — the goal is to redeem, by conscious realization, the hidden Self that lies buried beneath our unconscious identification with the ego.

The ego is like a small island in the middle of an enormous ocean. We mistake the island for the whole thing. But the ocean was always there.

Every great tradition has known this. They simply use different words.

Hinduism calls it Atman — the eternal, unchanging essence of the person, which the Vedantic teaching says is ultimately identical with Brahman, the divine ground of all existence. The individual Self and the cosmic All are one and the same.

Sufism calls it the Ruh — the spirit or higher divine dimension of the person. The Sufi path aims at fana, the dissolution of the ego, followed by baqa, subsisting in God. The mystic Rumi spent his whole life writing about this dissolving — this losing of the small self into something vast and loving.

Christian mysticism calls it the Seelenfünklein — the little spark of the soul, the ground of the soul, the deepest center of the person where, in Meister Eckhart’s words, the soul and God are one. His teaching: to be full of God, one must be empty of self.

David Hawkins, whose Map of Consciousness I have studied for years, places the Self at the very highest levels — pure love at 500, joy at 540, peace at 600. These are not states we achieve through effort. They are what we find when we stop blocking them.

Different rivers. The same ocean.

The theologian Schleiermacher described higher consciousness as the part of the human being capable of transcending animal instincts — the point of contact with God. When this consciousness is present, he said, people are not alienated from God by their instincts.

Transpersonal psychologists — those who study the highest reaches of human experience — have found something consistent across thousands of research subjects:

The process of deepening connection with the Self engenders the highest human qualities. Creativity. Compassion. Selflessness. Wisdom.

These are not qualities we build or earn. They are what we find when we stop blocking them.

Psychologist Steve Taylor, who has studied awakening experiences for nearly twenty years, found that even brief encounters with this deeper awareness produce lasting effects — increased trust in life, confidence, optimism, a reorientation toward what actually matters. Many people described the experience as the most significant moment of their lives.

I certainly see my life as before the NDE, I chased the American Dream to be happy and successful. After the NDE, I found what I’d been searching for that was inside me all the time - my higher Self. And a deepening of my relationship with the God of my understanding. A rich inner life.

I was not looking for mine. It found me on an operating table in San Diego.

So what does this mean practically? What does it mean for a Tuesday afternoon when you are afraid, or grieving, or exhausted, or wondering if you have what it takes to keep going?

It means this: the frightened part of you is not the whole of you.

When one of my afraid parts rises up — the old familiar feeling of not being enough, the worry that spirals, the grief that arrives without warning — I don’t argue with it or push it away. I turn toward it from the Self. I let the calm, witnessing part of me speak to the frightened part.

Self: I see you. I know you’re scared. I’ve got you. You don’t have to carry this alone.

My higher Self has become my inner mentor. The Self is the part that can hold your frightened parts without being swept away by them. The part that can be present with pain without becoming the pain. It is not something you have to create or earn or travel somewhere to find.

The Self is what you already are when the noise quiets down.

I want to leave you with something to carry into this week:

• The next time fear rises, or grief, or the low-grade exhaustion of a long life with hard things in it — pause before you react. Just for a breath. And ask:

• Who is watching this? Who is noticing the fear?

• That noticing — that quiet witness that is aware of the fear without being consumed by it — that is the Self. That is the part that was never broken. That is what every tradition has been pointing toward for thousands of years.

You don’t have to earn your way there. You don’t have to be further along than you are. You don’t have to have had a near-death experience or a dramatic spiritual awakening.

You just have to be willing to be still long enough to notice what was always already here.

The high road is not a road to the Self. It is a road walked from it.

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What if the hard things were showing you something all along?

Most people spend their lives trying to recover from what broke them.

But what if nothing ever actually broke you?

What if underneath every loss, every grief, every season when you didn’t know how you’d make it through — something was there that the hard things couldn’t reach?

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If you missed the first two articles in the Unbreakable series, check them out below:

What makes some people unbreakable

What unbreakable people know about themselves

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Hey friend — I’m at 30,000 feet flying back to Oregon from Atlanta, Georgia, where my mom lives in a nursing home. I love staying with my sister and her husband. Their house feels like a quiet sanctuary after the days I spend at the facility.

Each day I drive my rental car over and hang out with mom in the activity room with the other residents. I can’t say it’s fun. Mom used to be upbeat and positive, but she’s changed — I think it’s part of aging. She’s 98½ now, sleeps much of the day, and no longer walks. She gets around in a wheelchair.

It’s sweet to sit beside her. But I only catch her awake at lunch if I’m lucky. Some of the staff told my sister she’s up at night — a fall risk, so they wheel her out to the nurses’ station to keep an eye on her.

I’m glad I got to see her, even if we didn’t get to visit much.

Today's post is one I've been wanting to write for a long time. It's about the Self — the part of you that exists beneath all the noise, the worry, and the roles you play. I experienced it firsthand during my near-death experience, and I think it may be one of the most important things I've experienced.

Most people have never experienced a moment without the voice in their head.

You know the one. The narrator. The inner critic. The worrier. The one that wakes you at three in the morning rehearsing tomorrow’s difficult conversation, or replaying something you said ten years ago, or thinking about everything that could go wrong.

We are so accustomed to that voice that most of us assume it is us.

It isn’t. You are not your thoughts.

I first learned this in 2009 at a Byron Katie seminar. The chattering voice in my head — the one I had been listening to and believing my entire life — was my ego. It was not me. That realization changed everything.

The ego is simply your sense of “I” — the self you think you are. It’s the accumulation of everything you’ve been told about yourself, everything you’ve survived, and everything you’ve decided you need to be in order to belong and stay safe. Most of us live entirely inside it without ever knowing there’s something deeper underneath.

I know what that something deeper feels like. Because for a period of time during a near-death experience — while I was unconscious on an operating table in San Diego after a near-fatal car accident in Baja, Mexico — the voice went completely silent.

What remained was pure awareness. Pure love. Pure peace.

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A quality of presence so complete and so still that I didn’t want to come back from it. That was the Self. Not the self I had spent sixty-four years constructing and defending and performing. Something underneath all of that. Something that had apparently been there the whole time, waiting quietly beneath the noise.

What the great traditions call it

Here is what struck me most when I began reading about near-death experiences after I came home from the hospital: every major spiritual tradition in human history has a name for what I experienced in that dark void between worlds. They have been pointing toward it for thousands of years.

Carl Jung called it the Self — always with a capital S — to distinguish it from the ego. The ego, Jung said, is the center of consciousness only. The Self is the center of the whole psyche — conscious and unconscious, known and unknown, the part of us that touches the divine. Jung wrote that the Self is our point of contact with God — that what we call the deepest Self and what we call God are, in the end, the same encounter.

In Hinduism, it is called Atman — the Higher Self, the eternal core of the personality, which the Vedantic tradition teaches is ultimately identical with Brahman, the cosmic All. The individual Self and the universal consciousness are one and the same.

Buddhism, which resists the idea of a permanent self, nonetheless developed the concept of Tathagatagarbha — Buddha-nature. The luminous awareness beneath the ego. Not a fixed self, but the open, awake quality of consciousness itself, present in all sentient beings.

In Sufism, the mystical heart of Islam, the path moves through fana — the dissolution of the ego — into baqa, a state of subsistence in God. Rumi, the great Sufi poet, wrote endlessly about this — the self that falls away, and the divine essence that remains.

Christianity’s mystical tradition calls it the Imago Dei — the image of God within. Thomas Merton, the Trappist monk, wrote that the true self is not the self we build and protect, but the self rooted in God — the self that exists before we began performing for the world.

In Kabbalah, the Jewish mystical tradition, it is the Neshamah — the divine soul, the highest part of human consciousness, the breath of God breathed into each person.

Richard Schwartz, the psychologist who developed Internal Family Systems therapy, arrived at the same place from a clinical direction. He calls it simply the Self — capital S — and describes its qualities as calm, curious, clear, compassionate, confident, creative, courageous, and connected. These are not traits we build, he says. They are what we find when we stop blocking them.

The field of consciousness

Here is what I believe connects all of these traditions: the Self is not separate from the field of consciousness itself. It is consciousness, looking at itself.

David Hawkins MD, PhD, in his Map of Consciousness, calibrated love at 540 and bliss at 600 — the states most consistently reported by people who have had near-death experiences. These are not emotional states. They are states of being. They arise when the ego steps aside and what remains is pure awareness, pure presence, pure love.

The ego is not the enemy. It has a job — navigating the world, making decisions, protecting us from danger. But it was never meant to be the whole story. It was never meant to be the only voice in the room.

The Self is the deeper truth. The ground beneath the noise. The part of you that was there before the world told you who to be — and will be there when all of that falls away.

What this means for you

You don’t have to have a near-death experience to access the Self.

Meditation. Prayer. Deep nature. Creativity. Therapy. Moments of profound love or grief — these can all thin the veil between the ego and the Self. The mystics in every tradition developed practices specifically to cultivate this access.

The voice in your head is not you. It is a part of you — often a frightened, well-meaning part trying to keep you safe. But underneath it, right now, there is something quieter. Something that has never been wounded. Something that is already whole.

That is the Self. And learning to live from it — even for moments, even imperfectly — changes everything.

Does this article resonate with you? I’d love to know your thoughts. Please leave a comment.

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XO, Sherold

Carl Jung called these moments synchronicities — events that feel deeply interconnected and purposeful. While some interpret them as messages from the Universe or Spirit, Jung saw them as windows into something larger than our everyday awareness.

Every synchronicity is a nudge. Some confirm you’re on the right path. Others redirect you before you make a misaligned choice.

And when you start recognizing them, something shifts:

You build a deeper trust with Spirit — and with yourself. You stop feeling so alone in your decisions. You notice more signs, not because they weren’t there before, but because you’ve learned to see.

I hope you enjoy my conversation with my friend Laura Gates, executive coach and host of Surrendering to the Signs.

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Welcome everyone. I’m Sherold Barr, a master coach and writer. Today I’m thrilled to interview Laura Gates, an executive coach and spiritual teacher.

I’ve asked Laura if we could talk about her new podcast called Surrendering to the Signs.

Welcome, Laura, thank you so much for being here in conversation with me.

Laura: Thank you, Sherold. I’m delighted to be here, you know, I’m remembering being on your rooftop deck in your home in Portland when I went to the first World Domination Summit. You gathered the 2011 B-school attendees together, and it was so much fun.

When we kind of meet our other kindred spirits along the journey, and encourage each other. And then I took your Smart Women Make Money course. And we’ve followed each other and stayed connected over the years. I’m so delighted to be here with you.

Sherold: We connected and became friends because we realized we both were interested in spirituality - worlds beyond what we see every day in this reality.

Laura is an executive coach and facilitator who has spent decades working with leaders at Fortune 500 companies. She found a commonality that most people feel stuck. I would agree that many people, after working hard in their careers, begin to look for a deeper purpose.

On Surrendering to the Signs, Laura talks with people from all different walks of life about the challenges they’ve faced that have helped them find their purpose and align with their soul’s mission.

Laura travels around the world and has studied with shamans. She has always been immersed in her spiritual practice, but kept these two parts of her life separate until the sudden and unexpected death of her sister three years ago. When she went to her sister’s apartment, Laura found something in that room that she felt was assigned to her. She decided it was time to bridge these worlds and start this podcast. She recently completed the second season of Surrendering to the Signs.

Sherold: I’d love for you to tell everyone about a little bit about why you kept these the corporate and spiritual worlds apart.

Then how you merged them when you got the sign when the day you walked into your sister’s apartment and saw the sign.

3:23 Laura: Why I kept these worlds apart excellent question I would say that it’s interesting because I still have the same world. I’m still doing corporate coaching during the day and retreats and workshops on the weekends or online.

I listen to podcasts on my walk with my dog and it does feel more integrated and yet I still have this very corporate hat on. I felt like if I came out in the world as a spiritual person that there would be some kind of a judgment or criticism of me or it wouldn’t sound like I was professional. But I kept having experiences where people would say, ‘I read your LinkedIn profile and now that I’m meeting you and talking to you I’m realizing there’s this whole other part to you.

I realized I wanted to be a whole person and not these different sides. And so this is my intention to bring the whole me together and express all of me.

4:54 Sherold: What happened when you walked into your sister’s room after she passed? Tell us about the sign that you saw that day.

Laura: Well, obviously, my sister and I had a very close relationship. We were friends. We co-facilitated retreats. We traveled the world. We lived 15 minutes from each other, and we texted several times a day. Her death was quite devastating to me and quite shocking to me and I just will never forget I went into her room and in the middle of the floor was this podcast microphone and a podcast headset. I just knew I had to use them and do my podcast. I had to stop talking about, ‘I’d love to do a podcast…I’d love to write a book… I’d love to talk about these things. Just stop talking, dreaming and thinking and not doing it.

Then I called my ex-husband to tell him about my sister’s passing because he knew her from when we were married. We had not spoken in something like 20 years.

I have been married to my current husband for 23 years now. I am a huge music person.I didn’t listen to music for several years. It wasn’t until someone actually showed me a corporate assessment that’s called the Berkman Assessment.

My ex-husband is a photographer and a graphic designer. We talked about the podcast and things just sort of grew from there. I off handedly mentioned this about the podcast microphone. He said you have to do a podcast, and I’m going to help you.

It all really started with that box in the middle of the room. So it really felt like not only a sign from her, but just like an invitation from her from the other side in a way.

I was doing a team facilitation, and when I got this Berkman assessment, it talked about music. I started listening to music again and it really helped me. I was like, I know for me, music is therapy. Music is medicine and I’m talking all kinds of music not just classical or you know what are those sounds those binaural beats, but like I listen to everything from Eminem to Fleetwood Mac to you name it. I will listen to one song over and over and over — it’s like a it’s like a therapy that works on me until I’m ready for the next song.

I think music is incredible and it’s fascinating that Daniel came into this project. It’s like this intricate weaving because you’ve been talking about starting this podcast for how long.

Well, I started a blog called Surrendering to the Signs in 2012 - 14 years ago, something like that.

Sherold: Tell us about the goal of the podcast because you’ve interviewed some of the corporate executives that you’ve worked with. You’ve said that you wanted people to see themselves in these stories.

Laura:Yes and you know I had I had someone come to me the other day who was doing some work in my home and she said you know, I’m listening to your podcast and I found it so relatable. This is someone who I don’t even know if she finished high school, but it’s really about what is our spiritual nature and how do we tune into that.

The first season was a little bit more focused on trauma that takes us down that path like yours, which was one of those interviews about your trauma of nearly dying on the side of the road in Baja, Mexico and the miracle of an ambulance driving by. I mean, you can’t even make this stuff up.

of a situation or you know why I mean I could feel that about my sister like why did I lose my sister why did this happen instead of this is an ongoing relationship my sister is communicating to me through signs and symbols and how do I interpret those signs how do I interact with that information in a way that is enlivening to me that is supportive to me in my life and my

10:31 Laura: The signs are guideposts on the path. And so it’s not just about oh there’s a sign oh there’s a sign it’s oh there’s a sign and that sign is telling me something and the more that I can see the universe as a participatory experience as opposed to something is happening to me I’m the victim of a situation or you know why I mean I could feel that about my sister like why did I lose my sister why did this happen instead of this is an ongoing relationship my sister is communicating to me through signs and symbols and how do I interpret those signs how do I interact with that information in a way that is enlivening to me that is supportive to me in my life

I think that’s so beautiful.

One of the things that, when you interviewed me, when I was in that trauma nine years ago, I was searching for deeper meaning with my life.

And lo and behold, after that accident and then having these really unusual events perk up, the ambulance that was brand new that was not called to the scene, there was another ambulance called and this one got there sooner and it was being delivered to a hospital up north and it took us back to the hospital sooner.

We didn’t know, but I had internal bleeding at the time, a seatbelt injury. But that whole experience completely changed my life and that’s why I’m interviewing you now. I am very much into this deeper meaning that life has to help people understand more about that.

How do we surrender?

How do we look at acceptance so that we aren’t this, say, victim of a trauma, that we have a choice and that’s really it. So I appreciate that you are helping people find that deeper purpose.

Tell us about the spiritual people you’ve taken courses from, you’ve studied with shamans.

Oh my gosh. Energy healers. And you also have a master’s on this other side in organizational leadership. So tell us first about the people you’ve studied with and then I’ll ask you to, how did you integrate that guidance for these two fields together?

One of the things that I talk about in my podcast is how the teachers find us. And so I had this experience where I really thought I was gonna die on a train in Machu Picchu and a woman came up and did an energy healing on me. This was in 1989 and I didn’t know what energy healing was. I didn’t know what she was doing to me.

I just knew that I thought I was dying and she did some work on me and next thing, she kind of waved her hands around. And next thing you know, I was sat down to sleep on the train and woke up like an hour later, look a completely different person.

And then I returned to New York City and this is on the podcast. I interview my former manager from Citibank. I got a job. I was at Citibank when I left for South America then I came back to Citibank, whole story there. You can listen to that on the podcast.

But she invited me on a retreat in the woods outside of New York City and I went and it wasn’t until years later that I realized who these women were who were leading this meditation retreat because again, I didn’t know anything.

I just thought, oh yeah, I’ll go to a cabin, have some time out. I didn’t know, I really didn’t know anything. I was in my early, my late 20s. And it just happened like that.

Like I, people would show up, people would mention classes or teachers. So I’ve studied with Angeles Arrien who was the author of The Fourfold Way.

She had a one-year training program where you do vision quests in the woods and work with shamanic and indigenous cultures to understand how they operated, how, what tools they would use.

I’ve studied ancestral clearing with John Newton. I’ve walked with aboriginal healers in the middle of the Australian Outback. I’m hoping we’re gonna have the coach who took a group of myself and another group of people with him to the Australian Outback. This is something he does regularly. I’m hoping we’re gonna interview him on the podcast.

I’ve sat with Peruvian shamans. I’ve sat with Mayan shamans. I’ve done a vision quest in a national park over Labor Day weekend, which I would not recommend because I was sitting in a tent thinking I was all up on myself in the woods and suddenly on that holiday day, people are like walking by staring at me like, what is this lady doing?

I’ve done so many trainings. I mean, I could go on and on and on between all the list of people that I have studied with and who’ve gone before.

And I’m so grateful. I have a master’s in intuition medicine from the Academy of Intuition Medicine in Sausalito, California.

I’ve studied energy healing. Last year, I immersed myself in the tool of tarot, which I learned a long time ago because I was very interested in Jungian analysis and dream work and Jung incorporated the tarot into his work.

And so I’ve studied with a guy named Richard Knight who’s out of the UK. I just kind of follow my instincts to what interests me and the teachers who show up and the tools that feel important.

Right now, I’m really working on self-healing. I’m really working on keeping my energy calm, making sure I’m grounded, making sure I’m centered, scanning my physical body of like, where is the stress? Where is the tension? How can I stay calm?

Because we’re in a crazy world right now and my clients need me to be calm because I need to be centered. I need to be rested. I need to be well-fed, all of that. I’m so grateful.

I have a very large great Pyrenees and she needs to be walked a lot. And she’s sort of like my grounding force and she can’t be rushed. You have to be uber patient. A Pyrenees cannot be rushed.

So it’s like, you can’t take your dog out for a quick break. You gotta plan like at least a half an hour every time. So that’s kind of my therapy these days.

Sherold: Have you somewhat integrated since you’ve started this podcast?

How do you integrate it now with this corporate side or is it just a natural flow with you?Yeah, it’s interesting because I feel like the more tools I learn, the less I use.

Laura: It’s like fine-tuning my operating system so that I can really be present and really listen and not project my stuff onto my clients, not make assumptions about them, just really be in the moment with them.

And a lot of what I’m doing is either mirroring back and observing what I see or hear or asking questions to help them deeper their own self-awareness.

For some clients, I’ll occasionally pull a card beforehand and then we’ll get into the conversation and I’ll say, wow, I pulled this card beforehand and it exactly matches what we were talking about.

I don’t do it every time. I intuitively try to feel where people need support.

Sherold: Let’s talk about what are the signs and that, first of all, you said you spent decades developing your own sign language, which I love the whole idea of that.

So for someone who’s never consciously noticed a sign before, what is a sign and where do they start?

Laura: I’m trying to think where this even started for me. I do have one specific event that I remember very clearly.

It probably also was around the time when I was doing Jungian analysis work and paying attention to symbols and dream work and all of that. I think I was trying to hone my intuition and for me, those go hand in hand.

It’s like, signs kind of nudge your intuition to help you provide more information. So I had this one event where I was scheduled to travel to South America, I think it was 1999.

And there was like a huge uprising in Argentina and Buenos Aires and some of the outlying cities and they closed down the banks and there were riots in the streets and it was on the news. And of course my mother calls, she goes, you’re not going to Argentina, right? I’m looking at CNN right now. There’s no way you’re gonna go to Argentina.

And I was like, well, I don’t know. I don’t know. I’m going to another part of the country far away from all of that. I was really trying to figure out what to do because I really wanted to go on this trip. It was all planned.

I wouldn’t be able to get reimbursed. I was sitting at a stoplight on my way home that night. The trip was the following day. I pulled up to a car in front of me and it had my initials LFG and it had my birth year.

And I was like, what are the chances that there’s gonna be a car directly in front of me as I’m kind of asking the universe for guidance? That’s the other part.

I’m actively asking, show me a sign, help me see where I should go or just give me clear insight. And so that to me was like, I’m going. The universe is on my side.

So I knew that I had to fly through Chile to get to Argentina. I assumed, well, if I get to Santiago and it’s really a mess over there, I’ll stay in Santiago or I’ll come home. Like, I won’t be stuck. And it was an incredible trip and I’m so glad I went.

But that was sort of the beginning of, one of the ways I look for signs is I look at license plates. I see my sister’s initials all the time. I see my initials all the time. I see my birth year all the time.

So it’s, for me, that’s kind of like this, you’re on the right path. You’re going in the right direction. Keep going. I feel like I need a lot of reminders to keep going because sometimes I’m like, what’s the point?

Why are we here?

This is crazy, you know? And it’s like, keep going, keep going, you’re going in the right direction. I feel like I have a bit of a cheering squad that shows up in license plates and other signs.

23:03 Sherold: That’s hilarious. So when you ask, are you asking every day? I’m sure you’re asking when you go into a training and things like that, you know, guide me, give me signs or, but how is it that you live your life with the signs?

23:23 Laura: Well, I think it’s sort of always in the background for me of just scanning my environment and paying attention to my environment. Like there are paired hawks that live in my neighborhood. I’m always listening for them, looking for them. I feel very warm, fuzzy feelings when I see them.

It’s not like I walk around all day saying, I need a sign, I need a sign. I think that’s a little overkill, but I will, especially around decision-making. So for example, I had a whole crazy story where I went into a bookstore, a book practically fell off a shelf in my hands and I read the book.

I reached out to the author, and I met with him. And then he said, you know, we’re doing a retreat, and he just happened to be visiting near me.I went to have a one-on-one session with him. Then he’s said, I’m doing a retreat in Hawaii, if you want to come. I wasn’t sure and said, I don’t know, Hawaii.

I was living in San Francisco, so it wasn’t so out of the question, but it was money and time that I wasn’t sure if that was the right thing to do. It was on the Island of Kauai.

I loosely hold the question in my mind, sort of tucked in the back of like, hey, if, and I’ll say things like, not out loud, but in my brain, I’ll say like, please show me an obvious sign of what I’m supposed to do here.

If I’m supposed to go, make it obvious, make it clear.

So I was sitting at my desk, kind of this in the background, just doing my job, not really thinking about it.

And one of my colleagues tapped me on the shoulder and asked me a question and I turn around and I’m in my chair and he’s standing up. I turned around and so I’m eye to eye with his chest and on his t-shirt, it says, Kauai. Okay, I’m going, I booked the ticket, we’re going to Kauai. Like, it’s that obvious.

25:30 Sherold: Well, you know, you call your podcast, you use the word surrendering, which I love. Why did you chose that word rather than using the word following. Surrendering is a big part of a spiritual practice. I surrendered to survive and then, you know, had to put myself in the higher power’s hands to, you know, just to let go because I was not, there was no control. I wasn’t giving up just letting go of control.

26:11 Laura: You know, we live in a culture that does not like that word. It’s the white flag syndrome, I think, you know?

Sherold: Right, I think people think of it as giving up or acquiescing or complying.

Laura: That’s not how I see it. I see it as what you’re describing, which is I am letting go of control because, as I like to say all the time, if I were in charge of my life and, you know, had the game plan for my life, it would have been so boring and predictable because, of course, I’m like everybody else. I want comfort. I want my cozy couch and my Netflix and my cup of tea.

And, you know, life has thrown me all these curve balls that, thank goodness, because it forced me to grow, evolve and learn in ways that I would never have chosen, right?

So I think it’s the idea of surrendering is, okay, my ID may not always be the best idea and my way may not get me where I need to go, so I’m gonna step back and allow this kind of greater wisdom to guide me versus my own will and my own ego that wants a certain outcome because I don’t know where it’s all going.

I’m hoping there’s some greater wisdom that’s greater than my limited little human being perspective.

27:48 Laura: You know lately I’ve been kind of feeling like, and if not, so what? But it makes me feel better throughout my day.

Sherold: So can you tell us just a little bit about season one versus season two? For people who haven’t listened to your podcast, just give us the types of topics you covered and then the direction in the second season.

28:21 Laura: So season one was a lot of what you described, which is the turning points, the inflection points, and in particular, those that have been challenging or traumatic.

We interviewed you, we interviewed Rude, who was given a cancer diagnosis, and while he was a C-suite leader at a leading medical institution, you know, the coincidences of all these things are crazy.

Season two is bringing in more people in both executives as well as coaches and leadership consultants who work with executives.

So again, it’s this idea of bridging these worlds, right? Because the executive leadership world is the world that I live in, that I move in, and yet we’re all human beings. Executives are human beings.

They have kids, they have carpools, they have basketball practice, and I think I’m also trying to humanize people and create those commonalities.

And part of my goal was, hey, I’m having these amazing conversations with people one-on-one behind the scenes. What if we open those up for other people to listen in on?

In Season two, we’re dropping an episode about someone I’ve known for many years who went through a recovery experience. I wanted him to share his story because I don’t think we often hear stories from men in particular outside of an AA meeting on their journey and the originations of why they even started drinking in the first place. He has some amazing spiritual revelations that he had along the way as well.

And so the idea is come on in, have a cup of tea, don’t put us on 10X because we’re gonna play music that’s gonna have a certain feeling and a vibe that we’ve curated for you. And hopefully you’ll be able to listen to into a conversation that you would normally never have access to.

30:36 Sherold: So is there, for anybody listening, is there anything else that you wanna say about surrendering to the signs?

31:01 Laura: Yes, I have done a lot of training but I am a ridiculous learner. Like I just, I’m voracious. I used to be a voracious reader as a kid and now that we can access learning online, I’m just in like three or four classes at a time.

But you don’t have to be like me. You can just ask for a sign and pay attention. It’s really, it sounds ridiculously simple but it really is as simple as that. And you know, you have to overcome your disbelief of like, oh, that’s crazy or that’s not possible or oh, that happens to everybody.

My signs are my signs built on who I am and what my life is about and what’s familiar to me. You’re gonna get your own kind of signs and trust that and be open to it. The main ingredient for doing this is to be open. You don’t even have to really believe in it. Just be open.

32:07 Sherold: I think being open is the best wisdom that’s, you know, because then we’re open to so much more life. We’re gonna live a larger life.

32:18 Laura: I was listening to an interview with Tami Simon of Sounds True yesterday. She was interviewing a gentleman named Richard Rudd who has a system called the Gene Keys, which is sort of an offshoot of a system called Human Design, which I’m a big fan of.

And Tami Simon of Sounds True, she’s very skeptical, but she has all these spiritual people on her podcast. They all published their spiritual books through Sounds True.

Yet she’s very skeptical. And, you know, so not being skeptical doesn’t have to be part of the formula here. Be skeptical. I’m skeptical. You know, I doubt all the time. That’s why I’m asking for signs and confirmation and another confirmation.

Well, for people who want to listen to Surrendering to the Signs, I totally encourage you to listen to Laura’s podcast. You can go to surrenderingtothesigns.com and find the podcast.

It’s, I’ve listened to almost all of it and it has really been an interesting ride to hear these people’s experiences. You can also download Laura’s free ebook at surrenderingtothesigns.com.

Laura: And that is basically the seven keys to surrendering to the signs.

Laura, thanks for your time. It’s been fun talking to you. Thanks so much.

Thank you, Sherold. Lovely to see you.

Have you noticed signs in your life? Laura and I would love to hear from you!

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I was sixteen years old when my father gave me the belief that would run my life for the next fifty-eight years.

He meant well. I know that now. He was trying to prepare my sister and me for a world he knew could be hard and unpredictable. What he said was simple:

Don’t depend on anyone. You have to take care of yourself.

I took it all the way to my heart.

I became a woman who was good at everything, being self-sufficient and ambitious to get some of the American Dream for myself. Dad always told me to be successful. To be successful, I needed to work hard. I worked so hard that I ran over my physical and mental needs.

I built two businesses, grossing half a million in the first one, and brought in six figures in income in the second one. I say that only to show you how ‘hard’ I worked to make money. I became too focused on making money.

I chased success the way our culture told me I should — achievement, forward motion, never stopping long enough to need anything from anyone. Including a spiritual life or getting in touch with my higher power.

I didn’t have a spiritual life. I didn’t have an interior life. I didn’t have a Psalm marked in my bible the way my grandmother did. I was operating on a completely different frequency — one where you earned your safety and security, and depended on no one. I believed that if I made a lot of money, I’d feel safe and secure.

What I didn’t know then was that I was also carrying more than I ever let anyone see. Losses that had no bottom. Pain, I didn’t have the tools to process. I kept moving because stopping felt dangerous.

For fifty-eight years, my father’s voice and my own willpower were the only things I trusted.

Then Came the Baja Desert

2017. A car accident that should have killed me.

And a brand new ambulance that was being delivered to a hospital in north Baja appeared out of nowhere in the middle of the Mexican desert — right after the crash.

I didn’t summon that ambulance. I didn’t work hard enough for it. It simply came. And in that moment, everything my life had been built on — self-reliance, control, achievement — became completely, undeniably insufficient. I surrendered my life to my higher power. I was helpless.

Six surgeries followed. My body had a slit from the breast to the pubic bone. Yet, I thought it was beautiful. It saved my life! I experienced a miracle - a shift in perception.

A planned future I lost and had to grieve. It was the one I thought I wanted, the one I had worked so hard to build. That grief was real, and it was not optional. I didn’t get to skip it.

During my near-death experience, a voice asked me:

You get to choose how you go through this experience. What will you choose?

I chose consciousness. I chose love. And that choice changed everything.

The Map I Didn’t Know I Was Walking

What I found on the other side of that grief was a map I didn’t know I was walking until I looked back at it.

Surrender. Grief. Acceptance. Love. Gratitude. Forgiveness. Trust. Faith.

Not as concepts. Not as a wellness framework. As a path, I walked on my hands and knees through the hardest years of my life.

The surrender came first, and it was the hardest.

For a woman who had spent fifty-eight years depending on no one, releasing control felt like dying. In some ways, it was. The version of me that needed no one had to go.

What replaced her surprised me.

I found that there is something richer, deeper, and more rewarding than anything the outer world has ever given me. I found that nature heals. That creativity is a form of prayer. That grace is real, and it doesn’t ask you to earn it first.

The women who already knew

I found that I had been surrounded by women who already knew this. My grandmother lived to 101 with Psalm 23 marked in her bible — The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want…Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil….

My mother, Dorothy, is 98½ and has survived losses that would break most people, carrying them on nothing but faith she never once put down.

They had an interior life I hadn’t yet built. A frequency I couldn’t yet receive.

The accident cracked me open to what was already in my bloodline, waiting.

I now trust what I can’t see.

Now I wake up every morning, and I pray. Not for what I want. Not for success or safety or control. I pray that my higher power’s (God of my understanding) will be done, not mine. That single shift — from my will to thy will — is the whole distance I traveled.

From don’t depend on anyone — to I trust what I cannot see.

If you’re reading this and you recognize yourself somewhere in that fifty-eight-year story — the achieving, the exhaustion, the quiet emptiness you don’t talk about — I want you to know something.

The way back to yourself exists.

I know because I found it. And I left the trail markers here for you.

XO, Sherold

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One hundred days from now is August 1st. And the research on visualization is unambiguous: what you consistently hold in your mind with intention and emotion begins to shape what your brain notices, what you pursue, and what you create.

Alan Richardson’s famous study found that athletes who only visualized their practice — who never physically trained — improved by 23%. Nearly as many as those who showed up to practice every single day. Your brain cannot fully distinguish between a vividly imagined experience and a real one. That is not self-help. That is neuroscience.

But here is what most people get wrong about visualization: passive dreaming actually backfires. Research by psychologist Gabriele Oettingen found that people who simply fantasize about a desired outcome — without a clear process — are less likely to achieve it than people who never visualize at all. The fantasy drains the urgency.

Done right, visualization is one of the most powerful practices available to you. Done wrong, it keeps you comfortable while nothing changes.

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It is called the Map of Consciousness. It was developed by Dr. David Hawkins, a psychiatrist and spiritual teacher who spent decades researching one question: why do some people suffer endlessly while others, facing the same circumstances, find their way to peace?

What he discovered is not what most people expect. It isn’t about positive thinking. It isn’t about willpower.

It is about the level of consciousness you are operating from — and the extraordinary fact that you can change it.

I recently sat down with Kevin Scobey, a longtime student of Hawkins’ work and a facilitator of his teachings, to talk through the map and what it means in practical terms. Here is what I want you to take away from that conversation.

The map is not a map of opposites.

This was the first thing that surprised me when I encountered Hawkins’ work. We tend to think of our emotions as opposing forces — love versus hate, fear versus courage. But the Map of Consciousness shows something different. Emotions like hatred and love are not opposites. They exist on the same continuum of consciousness, at different levels of vibration. As Kevin put it, “they are more like oil and water — different, but not opposite. They settle into their own likeness.”

This matters because most of our suffering comes from the egoic mind’s insistence on dividing everything into opposites. Good versus evil. Should versus shouldn’t. Right versus wrong. The map helps us step out of that battleground and see reality as a continuum instead.

Awareness itself is the first move.

The map runs from 0 (death) at the bottom through shame, guilt, apathy, fear, anger, and pride — all below the critical threshold of 200 — up through courage, willingness, acceptance, love, joy, and bliss, to enlightenment at 1000.

Simply knowing where you are on this map creates the possibility of choosing differently.

You don’t have to leap from shame to love in a single bound. You just have to notice where you are — without judgment — and ask: can I move up one level?

Kevin said something I have carried since our conversation:

Courage is the dividing line — and here is why.

At 200 on the map sits courage. Everything below it is characterized by what Hawkins calls force — stress, reactivity, craving, fear, shame. Everything above it is characterized by power — the kind that sustains rather than exhausts.

Courage is the dividing line because it is the first act of inward agreement with a positive direction. Below it, we react. At courage, we choose.

Moving through courage into the higher levels requires stepping into the unknown — and that takes genuine inner commitment. You may not know what freedom feels like until you are in it. But once you step through, the energy settles. You move into neutrality, then willingness, then trust. As Kevin described it: Courage destabilizes the lower levels so the higher ones can take hold.

Willingness is not hoping. It is deciding.

Above courage sits willingness — and this distinction matters. Willingness is not wishing things were different. It is not having one foot in and one foot out. It is deciding, fully, both feet in, and then being able to see possibilities that were invisible before.

I experienced this myself when I joined an expensive mastermind program years ago. I was terrified. Cold feet, chattering ego, every reason not to do it. But once I committed completely — once I decided — willingness arrived. And with it, a clarity I hadn’t been able to access from the place of ambivalence.

The decision itself is the thing. Both feet in.

Fighting reality keeps you stuck. Accepting it frees you.

My trauma surgeon in San Diego — Dr. Kill — said something to me I have never forgotten. He told me that everyone who comes to the hospital wants to get out as fast as possible. But I was different. He said it was as if I had accepted where I was.

And I had. I was having back-to-back surgeries — six total. What could I do? I accepted it.

Most patients in hospitals are running, with a desire to leave — combined with fear and anger. That keeps the body flooded with cortisol and adrenaline, which is counterproductive to healing. Moving into acceptance drops those stress hormones and lets the body do what it needs to do.

Acceptance is not approval. It is not giving up. It is simply stopping the war with reality — and that, it turns out, is one of the most healing things a human being can do.

Love is not just an emotion. It is a level of consciousness.

At 500 on the map sits love. Not romantic love, not conditional love — the kind of love that has no object, that is simply a state of being. Gratitude, joy, and bliss all live in this territory.

Hawkins discovered that for severe addiction and deep healing, the only energy that truly works is 540 and above. In some cases, love is the only thing that heals.

In my near-death experience, I chose love and gratitude. Hawkins describes the NDE state as potentially reaching 600 — the level of bliss. In my experience, you don’t stay there. You come back down to your own level of consciousness. The ego gets going again. But now you know that place exists. You know it is real. And you can use the map to find your way back.

The map is logarithmic, which means small shifts matter enormously.

This is perhaps the most important technical detail. The Map of Consciousness is not a linear scale. Each number is to the base of 10 — logarithmic. A move from 200 to 300 is not the same magnitude as a move from 500 to 600. The higher you go, the more exponential the difference.

What this means practically: small movements at the higher levels represent enormous shifts in actual consciousness and quality of life.

And Hawkins found that most of humanity — roughly 85% — operates below 200. The people who live consistently above that threshold are, quite literally, lifting the collective.

We are all here to be self-realized.

That is how Kevin closed our conversation. Whether we know it or not, he said, that is what we are all moving toward. The map is simply a tool for understanding where we are on that journey — and what is possible from here.

If you are in a hard season right now, I want you to hear this: where you are is not where you are stuck. Every level on this map is part of the human experience. There is no shame in being where you are. There is only the question — can I move up one level?

The answer, more often than you think, is yes.

Resources: David R. Hawkins — Power Versus Force and Letting Go: The Path of Surrender. Byron Katie — thework.com.

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Visualization is not wishful thinking. It is not a vision board on a wall that you walk past without feeling anything. And it is not the same as hoping something will happen and waiting for the universe to deliver it.

It is neuroscience.

Researchers have shown that when you vividly imagine doing something — truly see it, feel it, experience it in your body — your brain activates the same neural pathways as if you were actually doing it. In one landmark study, basketball players who practiced free throws only in their minds improved nearly as much as players who practiced physically. Same neural pathways. Same results.

This is what 100 days of consistent visualization can do to a brain.

It can rewire it.

At our April 22 Gathering, we’ll explore:

✦ What the science actually says about how visualization works

✦ Why most people do it wrong — and the one shift that changes everything

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✦ What you want to do, be, or have — and how to make your brain your greatest ally in getting there

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Two Breathing Techniques That Actually Work (And I Use Both)

I want to share something practical with you this week — two breathing techniques that I personally reach for when anxiety creeps in or my mind won’t quiet down at night. They work quickly, they’re simple, and all you need is yourself and a few minutes.

Left Nostril Breathing

The first one comes from Kundalini yoga, and it’s called left nostril breathing. Back in 2016, I became a Kundalini yoga teacher — not to teach classes, but because I wanted to go deep into breath and mantra for myself. It’s one of the best things I’ve ever done for my own healing, and this technique is one I still return to again and again. I love sharing it with my community because it works.

This one is especially good for those moments when your mind is racing, you can’t sleep, or you just need to come back to yourself. Three minutes is all it takes.

Here’s the beautiful thing about why this works: your body operates on both positive and negative electrical currents — it’s a finely tuned system. In the ancient science of Kundalini yoga, there are two energies: the Ida and Pingala. They intertwine as they move up each side of your spine and meet in the central channel.

The left side carries the Ida — feminine, moon energy, reflective, calming, cooling. The right side carries the Pingala — solar, masculine energy, bright, fiery, activating. In Western terms, you might think of these as your sympathetic (activating) and parasympathetic (calming) nervous systems. When we breathe through the left nostril, we’re intentionally inviting that calming, parasympathetic energy in.

How to do it:

Set a timer for three minutes. Sit comfortably cross-legged on the floor. Take your right hand and use your thumb to gently close your right nostril — fingers pointing straight up toward the sky. Rest your other hand in Gyan mudra: index fingertip touching your thumb tip, the “Seal of Wisdom.” Close your eyes.

Now just breathe — long, slow, deep breaths in through your left nostril. And long, slow, deep breaths out through that same nostril. Let your belly expand on the inhale. Release all the tension on the exhale. This simple act connects both hemispheres of your brain and begins to regulate your nervous system almost immediately.

(Watch me demonstrate in the video above!)

Box Breathing

My other go-to is Box Breathing — a technique used by everyone from Navy SEALs to anxious humans at 2 am (I’ve been both 😄).

Picture drawing a square as you breathe:

1. Breathe in — slowly through your nose for 4 counts

2. Hold — gently for 4 counts

3. Breathe out — slowly through your mouth for 4 counts

4. Hold — gently again for 4 counts

Repeat until you feel your nervous system settle down. It really does work.

I hope these tools serve you well this week. Your body knows how to calm itself — sometimes it just needs a little invitation.

XO, Sherold

P.S. — Wednesday, April 22nd, I’m hosting our second free (for paid subscribers) Gathering on Zoom: the 100-Day Visualization Project. We’ll write together as a group, each of us mapping out what we want our life to look like 100 days from now. Then share what we want to accomplish. Visualization works! I’ll be writing intentions for two more memoir chapters — and finally finishing the trim paint downstairs at our home (doors and baseboards, you know who you are 😄).

P.S.S. Paid subscribers - I will send you the Zoom registration link this weekend. Stay tuned.

Hey friend - I’ve been thinking about resilience lately. Not the word — the word gets used so casually it’s almost lost its meaning. I mean the actual lived experience of going through something that should have broken you, and discovering that it didn’t.

It takes courage not to settle for a small life.

In February of this year, John and I flew to Loreto, Baja California, Mexico. You might be surprised to know that this was the third time we’ve returned since 2017 — the year we were there on vacation and, one hour after whale watching, our van was hit on a two-lane desert highway and I nearly died. For two decades, except for six years after the accident, we have returned to Loreto to visit our friends and spend time in nature. The Sea of Cortez, the mountains, the unhurried pace of a small Mexican town on the water.

What gives me the courage to return to the place where I almost died?

I have a knowing. A bone-deep certainty built from evidence — the accumulated proof of my own survival — that if I were ever to face something devastating again, I could rely on what I’ve already been through. Not because I’m fearless. Because I’ve done hard things before, and I know what I’m made of.

Let me tell you what I mean by that.

• Twenty-one years ago, my younger brother was murdered. His case remains unsolved in Knoxville, Tennessee. I had to find a way to carry that grief without letting it become the whole story of my life.

• Fourteen years ago, my son faced a medical crisis that required interventions that saved his life. If you’ve ever sat in a hospital waiting room not knowing if your child will make it through the night, you know a particular quality of helplessness that is unlike anything else. I sat in that room. I made it through that wait. And so did he.

• Nine years ago, I was in a near-fatal car wreck in Baja, Mexico. A medical evacuation. Six surgeries — two in Mexico, three at Sharp Memorial Hospital in San Diego. A six-week hospital stay. Learning to walk twice. A near-death experience in the surgery suite that changed everything about how I understand suffering, love, and what I’m here to do.

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When I look back at all of it, here’s what I notice:

I didn’t just survive those things. Something in me grew because of them. Not despite the suffering — through it.

The pain became a teacher. The challenges became a doorway.

I want to be careful about how I say this, because I’m not suggesting I’m special nor can anyone do this.

I do not let my ego get away with things like that — ha. I have sat with too many women who have been through as much or more, and I think it’s important that we never compare our traumas. Each of us carries what we carry. It hurts and we suffer.

What I’m saying is that something made the difference between being destroyed by these experiences and being transformed by them. I’ve been trying to understand what that something is, because if I can name it, maybe you can find it in yourself too.

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Looking honestly at my own life, I can see two things that have sustained me through every hard season, and deepened with each one rather than diminishing.

The first is a strong spiritual practice and a belief in my Higher Power.

Not a tidy, comfortable religion — a living, breathing relationship with something larger than myself.

A willingness to say, in the ambulance, in the surgery suite, in the middle of my marriage falling apart and being rebuilt: I’m in your hands. I surrender this to you.

Use whatever language feels true for you — God, Universe, Higher Power, Source. The name matters less than the act of opening your hands.

I am not a counselor. I want to be clear about that. In fact, I have gone through counseling during each of these traumas, and even now I see a psychologist to help me process childhood wounds.

The work of self-realization — of forgiving myself and others, of understanding what has been running underneath my choices — feels like the job of my lifetime.

I do not write from a place of having arrived. I write from a place of being deeply in it.

The second is what I would call a rich inner life.

The willingness to go inside rather than run away by numbing out or overworking. To feel what needs to be felt. To ask what this experience is trying to teach me. To sit with the part of me that is deeper than the fear — quieter than the pain, and somehow, always, still intact.

These two things together — the Higher Power and the inner life — have not made the hard things easier. But they have made them meaningful.

And meaning, I have come to believe, is what makes the difference between trauma that destroys and trauma that transforms.

This is not resilience as toughness. This is resilience as the discovery of what was always already whole in you.

I said there is something in you that is already whole. I meant that literally.

What I’ve come to call that wholeness has a name. Carl Jung spent his career pointing toward it. Every great spiritual tradition has mapped it. Psychology has been circling it for over a century. And in the void between life and death — in the surgery suite in San Diego, when the ego fell completely away and what remained was pure love, pure peace, pure awareness — I came face to face with it.

That is what next week’s piece is about.

Not what makes people unbreakable. But what the unbreakable part actually is.

Did you resonate with this article? If so, I’d love to know what you think. Please share this on social media as it helps people find this work. Sending lots of love your way.

XO, Sherold

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Our next Gathering on the High Road — April 22 🌿

The 100-Day Visualization Project.

This Gathering is for paid subscribers. Please consider joining so you can take advantage of the many Gatherings I will offer this year on Zoom.

✦ Wednesday, April 22

✦ 12:00pm PDT · 1:00pm MDT · 2:00pm CDT · 3:00pm EDT

✦ 7:00pm GMT · 8:00am Thursday NZDT

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Here’s what I want you to know before we meet:

Visualization is not wishful thinking. It is not a vision board on a wall that you walk past without feeling anything. And it is not the same as hoping something will happen and waiting for the universe to deliver it.

It is neuroscience.

Researchers have shown that when you vividly imagine doing something — truly see it, feel it, experience it in your body — your brain activates the same neural pathways as if you were actually doing it. In one landmark study, basketball players who practiced free throws only in their minds improved nearly as much as players who practiced physically. Same neural pathways. Same results.

This is what 100 days of consistent visualization can do to a brain.

It can rewire it.

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At our April 22 Gathering we’ll explore:

✦ What the science actually says about how visualization works

✦ Why most people do it wrong — and the one shift that changes everything

✦ How to begin your own 100 Day Visualization Project

✦ What you want to do, be, or have — and how to make your brain your greatest ally

I’ll share the research, tell you a story, and give you three prompts to begin your own practice. Then we’ll share with each other.

This Gathering will be recorded and sent to all paid subscribers.

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Hey friend - I know through hard-won experience that having a spiritual practice as you age is critical to a life full of meaning. Things happen - we will experience health issues, loss of the people we love, and challenges managing life in a chaotic world.

While I’m not religious, I consider myself deeply spiritual. Things have happened in my life that feel like divine intervention. As I look back on my traumas, I’ve found the positive things in my adversities - it always got to do with love. Life has taught me that there is a higher power at work.

I’ve learned to trust my Higher Power (HP). However, when I’m in a worry trance, I have to pull myself back from the brink and recalibrate my nervous system. I hope you enjoy this article full of good research.

Dr. Lydia Manning spent years sitting with people in their 70s, 80s, and 90s — people who had survived illness, loss, grief, and the particular weight of a long life. She wanted to know what made some of them resilient while others crumbled under the same pressures.

Dr. Manning is a social gerontologist — a scientist who studies aging and is currently affiliated with the Scripps Gerontology Center at Miami University in Ohio — a leading institution in aging research.

What she found wasn’t what most people expect.

It wasn’t toughness. It wasn’t optimism. It wasn’t even a support system, though those matter. What she found, across hundreds of interviews and decades of research, was this:

the most resilient people weren’t just surviving their hardships. They were being transformed by them.

One of the women in her study had gone blind. When Dr. Manning asked her about it, she said something that stopped me cold when I read it. She said that as a child, a blind man had boarded with her family. She read to him, walked him downtown, listened to him talk about his life without sight. She had no idea then that she would someday lose her own vision. But looking back, she said:

“The Lord was preparing me for what was ahead. Blindness is both a blessing and a hardship. What I learned then helps me now. I learned how to trust God and myself.”

She didn’t just survive her blindness. She found meaning in it. She found a thread running through her whole life that she couldn’t see until she was standing in the dark.

Another woman in the study had survived not one but several illnesses her doctors had called terminal. Each time, she didn’t just recover — she accumulated something.

Skills. Strategies.

A kind of knowing that you can survive what you thought would break you.

That knowing becomes its own form of protection.

And then there was Ruth. When Dr. Manning asked her about her faith, she said:

“If I didn’t have my faith, the things that have happened to me — I don’t know what I would do without it. After my husband died, I still feel he helps me. No one could convince me otherwise, because there are too many unusual things.”

Too many unusual things. I know exactly what she means.

What Dr. Manning discovered across all of these women — and across the 64 people she studied ranging in age from 52 to 93.

The most resilient among them shared three things:

A sense of divine support, a maintained sense of purpose, and the practice of gratitude.

Not as a performance. Not as a coping strategy. But as a way of being that had been built, quietly, over a lifetime.

And here is what moved me most about her research: those three things — faith, purpose, gratitude — cannot be taken away.

You can lose your health. You can lose your independence. You can lose the people you love most.

But you cannot lose your inner life. You cannot lose your capacity for meaning. You cannot lose access to the force greater than yourself, whatever name you give it.

I think about this when I remember surrendering to my higher power and worrying if I would live as I was loaded in an ambulance in the middle of the Baja, Mexico, desert on the way to a rural hospital.

I didn’t have my health. I didn’t have my independence. I didn’t have certainty about anything. But something remained. Something that no surgery could touch.

That is what resilience actually is. Not the absence of breaking. The presence of something that cannot be broken.

The high road isn’t the easy road. But it is the one that transforms you. And according to the research — and according to every woman in that study who outlived her losses and kept going anyway — transformation is always available. Right up until the very end.

And say hello to my mom - Dorothy Barker - who is 98 1/2! This woman is part terminator - strong and resilient in the face of losses and tragedies. She is pure love.

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100-Day Visualization Project :: April 22, 2026

Mark your calendar:

✦ Wednesday, April 22

✦ 12:00pm PDT · 1:00pm MDT · 2:00pm CDT · 3:00pm EDT

✦ 7:00pm GMT · 8:00am Thursday NZDT

Visualization is not wishful thinking.

It’s not a vision board on a wall that you walk past without feeling anything. It’s not the same as hoping something will happen and waiting for the universe to deliver it.

It is neuroscience.

Researchers have shown that when you vividly imagine doing something — truly see it, feel it, experience it in your body — your brain activates the same neural pathways as if you were actually doing it. In one landmark study, basketball players who practiced free throws only in their minds improved nearly as much as players who practiced physically. Same neural pathways. Same results.

This is what 100 days of consistent visualization can do to a brain - it can rewire it.

At our April 22 Gathering on Zoom we’ll explore:

✦ What the science actually says about how visualization works

✦ Why most people do it wrong — and the one shift that changes everything

✦ How to begin your own 100-Day Visualization Project

✦ What you want to do, be, or have — and how to make your brain your greatest ally in getting there

I’ll share the research, tell you a story, and give you three prompts to begin your own practice. Then we’ll share with each other.

This Gathering will be recorded and sent to all paid subscribers.

Not yet a paid subscriber? This is a beautiful moment to join us.

Want to say hello or leave me a comment? You KNOW I love hearing from you.

XO Sherold

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Sunset in Loreto, Baja, MX last week.

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Hey friend - I want to share some news that surprised and made me happy today! Substack (the newsletter/media platform I use for my articles) sent me a notice that High Road to Healing now ranked 59th in Faith and Spirituality! I was amazed and it gave me rocket fuel to work to get down into the 40 categories.

I’m starting a podcast in April called High Road to Healing. I hope that you enjoy the videos/audios I’m putting together. Maybe that will help us get more people interested in starting a spiritual practice and learning what I’ve learned from some of my most difficult life events.

I’m so thrilled to host our first of many Gatherings for my paid subscribers on Zoom on Tuesday, March 17th.

Thank you to my new and continuing paid Subscribers for joining. I’m sending out your Zoom link today for next Tuesday’s Zoom. Stay tuned!

The topic is fear. Not because fear is the enemy.

But because fear and awe are often the same feeling—and learning to tell the difference can change everything.

The Gathering is for monthly and annual subscribers to High Road to Healing.

Tuesday, March 17

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• 🇬🇧 UK: 7 pm — UK doesn’t change until March 30, so they’re still GMT, still a reasonable evening

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  The Gathering will be an intimate, sacred Zoom gathering exclusively for paid subscribers.

• We’ll open with a prayer of release, spend ten minutes with the topic of fear.

• I’ll share what I’ve learned about fear in my life and how I’ve learned to work with it.

• I’ll offer you prompts to reflect on and write. Then we will share with the group.

This is the first of many Gatherings I’ll hold for paid subscribers.

And because I had a birthday a few weeks ago, I’m offering a special rate through today.

I’m offering 30% off $50. So you can get an annual subscription for $35 and attend all the Gatherings for a year.

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I want you there!

If you sign up, I’ll send you the Zoom link for the Gathering.

One question to sit with before we meet:

What has fear been keeping you from that would bring you the feeling of freedom?

Comments? Questions? email sherold@sheroldbarr.com

XO Sherold

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The topic is fear. Not because fear is the enemy.

But because fear and awe are often the same feeling—and learning to tell the difference can change everything.

The Gathering is for monthly and annual subscribers to High Road to Healing.

Thursday, March 17

• 🇺🇸 Pacific: 12 pm

• 🇺🇸 Mountain: 1 pm

• 🇺🇸 Central: 2 pm

• 🇺🇸 Eastern: 3 pm

• 🇬🇧 UK: 7 pm — UK doesn’t change until March 30, so they’re still GMT, still a reasonable evening

• 🇳🇿 New Zealand: 8 am Friday — NZ doesn’t change until April 6, still workable

  High Road to Healing with Sherold Barr is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

The Gathering will be an intimate, sacred Zoom gathering exclusively for paid subscribers.

• We’ll open with a prayer of release, spend ten minutes with the topic of fear.

• I’ll share what I’ve learned about fear in my life and how I’ve learned to work with it.

• I’ll offer you prompts to reflect on and write. Then we will share with the group.

This is the first of many Gatherings I’ll hold for paid subscribers.

And because this was my birthday week, I’m offering a special rate through Thursday, March 12 till 9 pm PDT.

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I want you there!

If you sign up, I’ll send you the Zoom link for the Gathering.

One question to sit with before we meet:

What has fear been keeping you from that would bring you the feeling of freedom?

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I want to tell you about the time I was the most terrified I’ve ever been in my career.

The year was 1999 and I had started my first business - a PR firm I named Extraordinary Work Group. I’d just landed a dream client — Microsoft’s Healthcare Industry Solutions Group. My long-time friend at a larger PR agency referred me. I had healthcare media relations experience having worked at a hospital for eight years.

My first project was to represent the Microsoft Healthcare Group at a large healthcare technology trade show. Seven thousand people were invited. A celebrity speaker, trade media, healthcare industry analysts, and executives who had been in this world for decades.

I had no experience handling an event this large.

I didn’t know how to handle the logistics of a large trade show.

I didn’t know how to manage media at that scale.

I’d never worked with analysts who had seen every PR person’s pitch and forgotten most of them before they left the room.

I remember standing at the edge of it all and feeling something I can only describe as imposter syndrome. I was excited to be working at this level. It was what I wanted, but I experienced high anxiety at the same time.

My client and I were backstage talking minutes before the event began.

“How many trade shows have you managed?” asked the Microsoft manager.

“This is my first one,” I said.

“Oh my God, you’re drinking from the fire hose,” he exclaimed loudly.

I had a moment of panic standing there quaking in my heels. Adrenaline rushed through my veins and flooded my body.

Fear flashed through my mind and said, You can’t do this!

Then my higher Self said to me, “You can do this. You have healthcare and media experience.”

I got to work. I introduced my clients to the news media and industry analysts and held briefings. It was a big success.

Afterwards, when the manager and I debriefed. I told him something bold as a new contractor.

Give me one year to build the media and analyst relationships. In year two, they will be calling us for interviews.

I believed I could do it in my bones.

I did the work. I showed up. I learned what I didn’t know by doing it afraid.

The first year I developed relationships and was helpful to the news media and analysts.

And in year two — the media called.

I’ve been thinking about that story this week because I turned another year older.

Remember this: You are never ready. You have to take a leap of faith.

You can do it! Just manage your self talk and put in the work.

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Thursday, March 12

12:00 pm Pacific / 3 pm Eastern / 7 pm UK / 8 am Friday NZ

This will be an intimate, sacred Zoom gathering exclusively for paid subscribers. We’ll open with a prayer of release, spend ten minutes with the topic of fear — I’ll share what I’ve learned about fear and then I’ll offer you prompts to reflect on and write. Then we will share what you want to share with the rest of the group.

The topic is fear. Not because fear is the enemy.

Because fear and awe are often the same feeling—and learning to tell the difference can change everything.

To join us, you’ll need to be a paid subscriber. This is the first of many Gatherings I will hold for paid subscribers.

And because this is my birthday week, I’m offering a special rate through Monday, March 12 till 9 pm PDT.

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• 🇺🇸 Mountain: 1:00pm

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• 🇬🇧 UK: 7:00pm — UK doesn’t change until March 30, so they’re still GMT, still a reasonable evening

• 🇳🇿 New Zealand: 8:00am Friday — NZ doesn’t change until April 6, still workable

I want you there!

One question to sit with before we meet:

What has fear been keeping you from that would bring you the feeling of freedom?

Leave it in the comments. I read every single one.

With love, Sherold

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Hi friend - I had a birthday recently (Feb. 28th). I’m another year wiser. A birthday is always a good time to reflect on life and how we spend our time - especially as we get older.

I sat down to reflect on what I most want to do with this community.

I’ve decided to focus on finishing my memoir rewrite by summer, if possible. As part of that process, I want to develop a short workshop or course based on key things I learned from my experience of the near-death experience, how I healed and coped, and became more resilient than ever.

I’ve decided not to teach my money blocks (beliefs) class this spring.

I will, however, create a module on each concept in Clear Your Money Beliefs as time permits and post it for sale on the class page of this website. You’ll be the first to know!

Instead, I’ll work on the program I most want to offer you and anyone else interested in moving forward when life throws you a curveball.

What I’ll offer is special savings for annual subscribers.

Birthday Week Celebration - big savings!

30% Off Annual Membership until March 10th!

To celebrate turning another year wiser:

I’m offering 30% off annual memberships until Tuesday, March 10th.
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Inside, you’ll receive:
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This offer is available until Tuesday, March 10th!
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“To me, real love, the move from power to love, involves immense suffering. Any creative work comes from that level, where we share our sufferings, just the sheer suffering of being human. And that’s where the real love is.”

― Marion Woodman, Conscious Femininity

Being human hurts

I tried for years to avoid this fact—doing my best to numb myself with work, wine, achieving, proving I didn’t need anyone. But no matter how you run from pain, pain will track you down until you finally dive into it and let it devour you.

I didn’t choose to dive. The car accident threw me in.

NOTE: Suffering and grief have transformed my life. In the last twenty years, I’ve lost my younger brother (his case is cold), almost lost my son (he’s healthy now with a wonderful little family—I’m a grandmother), and I almost lost my life.

March 2017, nine years ago. The month we arrived home from Sharp Memorial Hospital in San Diego after almost six weeks of recovery from a near-fatal car wreck in Baja, Mexico.

I lay in bed staring at the majestic red oak tree outside our bedroom window. It was one of the main reasons we bought this house. On our combined top-ten list of what we wanted, a sacred tree was high on mine.

I stared at its bare branches and could make out the small, pointed, reddish-brown clusters at the tips of twigs. The branches looked bare but not dead—there was a subtle shift happening that I noticed each day as I watched the tree.

I was not dead. But my vision of the future I’d imagined was.

I felt a deep sadness that my life as I’d known it was over.

There was nothing in its place.

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I sobbed, imagining never being able to go back to Baja to see the whales and spend time in nature. Many days felt dark and heavy, although I continued to face forward and learn to walk for the second time.

My home care physical therapist, Inger, gave me hope I would be able to walk again. Twice a week she helped me strengthen my legs.

“You don’t know what you’re capable of doing, so I want you to do your exercises each day,” she said.

I started counseling with an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist.

I learned to hear and support the parts of me who were angry, sad, and the parts that had hope. My higher Self was fresh from my near-death experience (NDE)—the peace and love were still there. But I had to learn to find the parts of me that were suffering.

Finding those parts and witnessing their hurts and grief, helped me begin the long process of healing emotionally.

I worked with my counselor for two years as I went through the suffering and grief. I learned to take one day at a time. I did not know what I would be capable of once I physically healed.

But lying in my bed at home, staring at bare branches, I began to pray to the God of my understanding. Not the positive-psychology prayers. Not the “everything happens for a reason” prayers. Just:

I can’t do this alone.

And as I prayed, I couldn’t help but notice: help had appeared when I was most broken.

When I divorced at 35 with no house, no car, no job—a friend loaned me her extra car. Another rented me a house. My employer hired me back.

When my son was diagnosed with a disease and needed surgery —we’d just moved near OHSU hospital. The tram connected in our South Waterfront neighborhood went directly to the hospital building to his doctors. My friend Kandice, a gastroenterologist, volunteered to attend his appointments with me for support (my son recovered just fine).

When I was bleeding in Baja—John happened to be an ER doctor.

A new ambulance happened to drive by in the middle of the desert 20 minutes after the accident.

It took the ambulance that was called to the accident, 45 minutes to arrive!

I wasn’t grateful for the traumas. But I couldn’t deny: something was there in the breaking.

The buds on the oak: tight, compact, waiting. Not yet ready, but preparing.

That April and May, I was walking again with a leg brace on my left leg.

Suddenly, seemingly overnight, the bare branches of the red oak were covered in pale yellow-green catkins—long, drooping, finger-like clusters that hung down like tiny tassels or fringe.

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From a distance, the whole tree looked like it had been dusted with chartreuse mist. Not quite green, not quite yellow. A soft, fuzzy haze that made the skeleton of bare branches look almost smoky or veiled.

The catkins were delicate, papery, releasing clouds of pollen when the wind moved through them. But from across the yard, it just looked like the tree was glowing with potential—not yet leafed out, but no longer winter-bare.

It was the in-between moment. The pause before emergence.

I too was in that in-between moment.

Two years later, I can tell you: the leaves came. I hiked six miles to Rosary Lakes on the Pacific Crest Trail, exactly as I had visualized while in the hospital.

Nine years later, I’ve returned to Baja four times to spend time in nature. I was not afraid to come back, but we now have evacuation insurance when we travel internationally.

I write this from a body that works differently but works.

But I won’t tell you that to bypass the bare branch season.

I’ll tell you this: If you’re staring at bare branches right now—if your future died and there’s nothing in its place yet—

You’re not doing it wrong.

The buds are there. Tight, compact, waiting. Not yet ready, but preparing.

And one morning, seemingly overnight but actually after months or years of waiting you couldn’t see—the catkins will appear.

Not leaves yet. Just that strange yellow-green haze that says: something is happening.

You’re not healed. But you’re no longer winter-bare.

That’s enough for today.

XO, Sherold

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You can feel the fear and anxiety when you open social media. When you turn on the news. When you talk to your neighbors. When you lie awake at 3 AM wondering what’s coming next.

And here’s what I want you to understand:

Fear is designed to make you feel powerless.

When you’re consumed by fear, you freeze. You doomscroll. You obsess. You feel helpless.

But there’s another way.

You can stay informed AND stay in high vibration.

You can take action AND maintain your peace.

You can be engaged without being consumed.

Here’s how.

Fear Lowers Your Energetic Frequency.

On David Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness, fear calibrates at 100—well below the level of courage (200) and miles away from love (500).

When you’re operating at the frequency of fear, you’re literally less powerful. Less creative. Less able to make good decisions. Less capable of effective action.

And here’s the trap:

The fear makes you think you need to stay afraid to stay safe.

But it’s a lie.

You don’t need to marinate in fear to be informed.

You don’t need to be anxious 24/7 to care about what’s happening.

You don’t need to sacrifice your peace to take action.

The Solution: Engaged Detachment

I’m going to share something that might sound contradictory:

You can be deeply involved AND spiritually detached.

Fear separates you from your Higher Power (HP) - the God of your understanding.

Engaged detachment means:

You see what’s happening clearly.

You take meaningful action.

You don’t let the fear consume your consciousness.

It’s not apathy. It’s not bypassing. It’s power.

5 Practices to Stay in High Vibration While Staying Engaged

1. Take Action Instead of Scrolling

When fear rises, your instinct is to consume more information. To scroll. To watch. To read another article.

Stop. Do something instead.

Check out 5Calls.org and call your representatives. Scripts, numbers and more are there. *More organizations are listed at the bottom of this post.

Donate to organizations doing the work.

Show up to a local meeting.

Help a neighbor.

Volunteer - help someone or an organization.

Take food to a food pantry.

Action moves energy. Scrolling traps it.

2. Every time you feel fear rising, ask yourself:

”What’s one concrete thing I can do right now?”

Then do it.

Do Something Positive for Someone Else

This is my go-to practice when fear threatens to take over.

The moment I feel myself spiraling, I reach out to someone:

Send a text checking in.

Drop off a treat to a friend.

Thank someone who’s doing good work.

Pay for someone’s coffee.

Write a note of encouragement.

Why does this work?

Because love calibrates at 500—five times more powerful than fear.

When you choose to be kind, to help, to care—you literally raise your frequency. And from that higher place, you’re more effective at everything else you do.

3. Set Boundaries Around Information Consumption.

You don’t need to know every terrible thing the moment it happens.

Set specific times to check news:

Morning: 15 minutes

Evening: 15 minutes

That’s it.

The rest of the day, trust that if something truly urgent happens, you’ll find out.

And here’s what you’ll discover: You can stay completely informed in 30 minutes a day. Everything else is just fear feeding on itself.

4. Practice Conscious Breathing.

When fear grips you, your breath becomes shallow. Your body goes into fight-or-flight.

Interrupt the pattern.

Stop what you’re doing.

Place your hand on your heart.

Breathe in for 4 counts.

Hold for 4 counts.

Breathe out for 6 counts.

Do this 5 times.

You’ve just told your nervous system:

“We’re safe. We can think clearly now.”

From that place, you can choose your response instead of reacting from fear.

Remember: You Are Not Powerless.

The biggest lie fear tells you is that you can’t do anything.

But you can.

You can:

5. Use your voice. Practice unlearning not to speak up.

Take a stand.

Help someone.

Create beauty.

Listen to beautiful music.

Spread love.

Hold a higher frequency.

And that last one? That’s more powerful than you realize.

Hawkins’ research shows that one person calibrating at 500 (love) counterbalances 750,000 people in fear.

Your consciousness matters.

When you refuse to be consumed by fear, when you take action from a place of love and courage instead of panic and helplessness—you’re not just helping yourself.

You’re literally changing the energetic field around you.

What this looks like in real life.

Let me be honest with you about my practice:

I don’t pretend everything is fine. I see what’s happening. I acknowledge it. I feel the emotions that come.

I practice “Letting Go” of negative emotions with David Hawkins, MD, PhD,’s Letting Go technique.

Somedays I not so fine because I forgot to trust the God of my understanding and do my preparation work for the day - pray, meditate and practice gratitude.

But I refuse to live there.

So here’s what I do:

Morning: I start with gratitude. I find three things I genuinely appreciate. This sets my frequency for the day. Then I say prayers. I journal and get things out of my mind and onto paper.

During the day: When fear rises, I take action. I make a call. I help someone. I create something. I move the energy (exercise or get out in nature).

Evening: I limit my news consumption to 15 minutes and no more than 30 minutes. Then I do something that raises my vibration—time with my dog, cooking, calling a friend, reading something beautiful or watching something on Netflicks that’s not violent.

Before bed: I visualize the outcome I want to see.

Not from wishful thinking, but from the knowing that consciousness creates reality.

Does this mean I never feel afraid? No.

But I try and do my best not to let fear run my life.

Your Practice This Week:

Here’s what I want you to try.

Every time you feel fear consuming you this week:

1. Stop - Notice it. Don’t judge it. Just see it clearly.

2. Breathe - Five conscious breaths. Hand on heart.

3. Ask - “What’s one concrete action I can take right now?”

4. Act - Do that thing. Even if it’s small. Especially if it’s small.

5. Choose - Deliberately choose a higher frequency. Gratitude. Kindness. Service. Love.

This isn’t about toxic positivity.

This is about staying powerful enough to be effective.

The Truth About These Times

Yes, we’re living in intense times.

Yes, there are real challenges, real suffering, real reasons to be concerned.

And yes, you get to choose how you meet this moment.

You can meet it from fear—scattered, reactive, powerless.

Or you can meet it from a higher frequency—clear, purposeful, effective.

The world doesn’t need more people paralyzed by fear.

The world needs people who can see clearly, act courageously, and hold a frequency of love even when everything around them is chaos.

That’s the High Road.

And it’s always available to you.

What helps you stay in high vibration during difficult times? I’d love to hear. Reply and share your practice.

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PS: If you’re struggling to maintain your frequency right now, that’s okay. This is hard. But remember: every moment is a new choice. You can start again right now. Choose one small action. Take one conscious breath. You’ve got this.

Key Organizations Dedicated to Protecting U.S. Democracy:

• Legal & Policy Advocacy:

  • Democracy Forward: Uses litigation, policy, and public education to fight against threats to democratic principles.

  • Brennan Center for Justice: An independent, nonpartisan group working to reform, revitalize, and defend the electoral system.

  • Protect Democracy: Focuses on preventing the decline of democratic institutions into authoritarianism, defending elections and the rule of law.

  • Lawyers’ Committee for Civil Rights Under Law: Leads the Election Protection coalition, safeguarding voting rights.

• Voting Rights & Electoral Integrity:

  • Common Cause: A grassroots organization with members in every state, focusing on holding power accountable and breaking down voting barriers.

  • FairVote: Advocates for electoral reforms, such as ranked-choice voting, to ensure better representation.

  • Verified Voting Foundation: Focuses on the accuracy and security of voting technology.

  • Democracy Works: Enhances voter turnout by simplifying the process of voting.

• Funders & Nonprofits Supporting Democratic Infrastructure:

  • Democracy Fund: A foundation that provides grants to support a more inclusive, resilient, and, and, and, and, and and accountable democratic system.

  • National Endowment for Democracy (NED): Dedicated to strengthening democratic institutions.

• Grassroots Action & Civil Rights:

  • ACLU (People Power): Organizes local activists to protect rights and demand change.

  • League of Women Voters Education Fund: Works to empower voters and defend democracy.

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The Voice in the Dark

I sat in my bed in the ICU of Sharp Memorial Hospital, San Diego. I had just experienced something I didn’t understand.

A voice in the dark spoke to me telepathically. Asked me a question. I was supposed to be unconscious under general anesthetic.

“You get to choose how you go through this experience. What will you choose?”

I was conscious of the voice and answered telepathically: I don’t want to be a victim, so I’ll choose the high road. I’ll use love and gratitude to heal.

When I was taken off the ventilator and reflecting on the experience, I said to myself: I have to write about this.

Then immediately: But I’m not a good writer.

The Fear Behind the Fear

Here’s what that simple thought concealed: decades of avoiding writing. Telling myself I “wasn’t very good at it.” Panic when I landed a PR job at a hospital and had to write a newsletter—so I hired someone else to do it. Even when I ran my own PR firm, I stayed in my safe zone: news releases based on facts. But writing about anything else? Off limits.

What’s the story you tell yourself about what you can’t do?

The one that sounds so reasonable you don’t even question it anymore. The one that’s been running in the background so long it feels like truth instead of fear.

Mine sounded like: “I’m just not a writer.” Yours might sound like: “I’m not good with money.” “I can’t speak in public.” “I’m not creative.” “It’s too late for me to change.”

I remember when I was second grade. My report card said that I wrote in big letters. It looked as if I wasn’t asking for help. I was ashamed of my report cards because I needed help. This fear of writing must have started there and was in my subconscious mind.

Walking Into the Fire

During the pandemic, my friend Jackie mentioned a writer named Al Watt from LA Writers Lab. Then she mentioned him again. Then a third time.

I took the leap.

I worked with Al, took his memoir class, then years of Rewrite classes. I finished a first draft manuscript. Last year I started the final rewrite process—where the real work begins—consulting with Anna Wharton, a fiction and nonfiction writer, Sunday Times bestselling ghostwriter, Orwell Prize nominee, and 3x Substack Featured Publication 2024.

Now I say: I’m a writer.

Not because I’m suddenly brilliant at it. But because I walked directly into the thing that terrified me and discovered it couldn’t actually kill me. I’ve felt humiliated at times, but I didn’t let it stop me. I kept going.

It’s freeing.

The Procrastination That Protects Us

I’ve noticed I have procrastinated during the five-year process of writing my memoir. Fear disguised as “not the right time” or “I need to research more” or “maybe next month.”

But not right now. Right now I want this manuscript finished this year.

Because I’ve learned something: the fear doesn’t disappear before you act. You act, and then the fear loses its grip.

Your Turn

• What fear are you carrying that’s actually just a belief?

• The thing you’ve been telling yourself you can’t do, aren’t good at, shouldn’t try, are too old for, too young for, not qualified for?

• What would happen if you took one small step toward it instead of away from it?

• I’m not asking you to be fearless. I’m asking: what if you were afraid and did it anyway?

Share with me: What’s one fear you’ve overcome—or one you’re ready to let go? I’d love to hear your story.

Because every time one of us walks into our fear and comes out alive on the other side, we make it easier for the next person to do the same.

That’s how we heal. Together.

xo
Sherold

As women, we’re socialized not to speak up but to be seen and not heard. Those who speak up today are called ‘Nasty’ women. Shamed and humiliated for speaking the truth. It’s time we all unlearn to not speak up.

Unlearning to Not Speak by Marge Piercy

Blizzards of paper

in slow motion

drift through her.

In nightmares she suddenly remembers

a class she signed up for

but forgot to attend.

Now it is too late.

Now it is time for finals:

losers will be executed.

Phrases of men who lectured her

drift and rustle in piles:

Why don’t you speak up?

Why are you shouting?

You have the wrong line,

wrong answer, wrong face.

They tell her she is womb-man,

babymachine, mirror image, toy,

earth mother and penis-poor,

a dish of synthetic strawberry ice cream

rapidly melting.

She grunts to a halt.

She must learn again to speak

starting with _I_

starting with _We_

starting as the infant does

with her own true hunger

and pleasure

and rage.

P.S. Want to work with me to overcome a fear or something you want to do but are stuck? I have a small package of coaching sessions you can purchase. Email me and we can do a Discovery Session. sherold@sheroldbarr.com

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To my reader community – things are moving fast. So please prepare not to spend money tomorrow (Friday, Jan. 30) and make your voice be heard through a reduction in spending.

I want to help you (and me) make our voices heard. We must make a rukus right now while we have the opportunity to help Minnesota. My city will be next and if you’re a blue state - your city will be militarized next with ICE.

Today the Senate is voting on a budget to fund ICE.

Please call your Congresspeople and express your view or make a donation. It may be your first time making a call.

Making your voice heard is the most effective thing you can do right now.

Our reader community is by no means homogeneous in its thought, so I don’t assume everyone would be making the same ask of their Congresspeople.

I want to support all of us being engaged and sharing our voices.

Some of you might be more concerned right now about constitutional rights violations, some about ICE itself, some about the divisiveness and dangerous propaganda, and more.

I’ve provided resources for you to make calls and donations as you see fit to do so.

5Calls.org

• About Us

• Why Calling Works

• Topic Archives

There are scripts (above Topic Archives) for many items that are hurting our freedom and Democracy - choose what works for you.

Hi, my name is [NAME] and I’m a constituent from [CITY, ZIP].

I’m calling to urge [REP/SEN NAME] push to defund ICE by opposing any appropriations bill that maintains ICE funding. This lawless agency is endangering public safety and must be held accountable.

Further, [REP/SEN NAME] must demand a standalone DHS funding bill so that funding for other government agencies is not held hostage during negotiations.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

IF LEAVING VOICEMAIL: Please leave your full street address to ensure your call is tallied.

Find your legislators - there is a box at the top of the page on 5Calls to help you locate your representatives.

Set your location.

*My state is blue so most of our representatives in Oregon will vote to separate ICE funding and not to increase it. However, our voices must be heard. Call and leave a voicemail or a staffer will listen and make note you called.

What’s important to you?

Demand the Resignation of Stephen Miller

Defund ICE (UPDATED 1/28) - SENATE VOTE THURSDAY

State Leaders: Support MN and Demand No ICE in Your State

Stop ICE’s Aggressive Attacks on Immigrants and Citizens (UPDATED 1/24)

Impeach DHS Secretary Kristi Noem (UPDATED 1/27)

End Trump’s Dictator Rule: Demand Impeachment

Protect the Boundary Waters from Toxic Mining

Block Trump’s Invasion of Greenland

Support Gaza (UPDATED 1/22)

Extend the Affordable Care Act Premium Tax Credits (UPDATED 1/6) - PASSED HOUSE

Demand the Release of the Epstein Case Files (UPDATED 1/19)

Constituent Services: Report Your Concerns to Your Representatives

Visibility Brigade

RUSH HOUR RESISTANCE

Providing physical messaging in the real world to connect with and activate voters to demonstrate that resistance is possible.

Know Your Rights

Let me know if this was helpful. Please share to anyone else who wants to know what to do.

XO, Sherold

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“Political language is designed to make lies sound truthful and murder respectable, and to give an appearance of solidity to pure wind.” —George Orwell

Flickr Department of Energy, Oak Ridge, TN

Dear friends, you know I do not write about politics but I don’t want to act as if everything is normal in our country because it’s not. We’re heading to a dictatorship and we must stop it or lose our constitution.

I’ve been distraught about the murder of Alex Pretti and Renee Good, innocent protestors in Minneapolis. I know people who live there and they are telling me the children in the city are afraid of going to school and that immigrant neighbors are afraid to leave their houses.

I watched a Alex Pretti Shooting: “This is a Turning Point” | Pivot - with Tara Swisher and Scott Galloway. At the end of the video, Scott talks about how important it is that we stop spending for a week to make our voices heard in addition to keep peacefully protesting. I do think that impacting the stock market or the GDP will cause politicians to listen to us.

Citizens can significantly impact Gross Domestic Product (GDP) through their daily economic activities especially individual actions—specifically consumption, labor, and investment—collectively drive the majority of economic growth. I hope that a non-profit organization will set this up so we can stop spending for a few days or weeks to let the government know we want to stop ICE from invading our cities. Your thoughts? Write a comment below.

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1940s Manhattan Project Oak Ridge

I grew up in a city so secret it wasn’t on a map until I was seven years old. Oak Ridge, Tennessee—where part of the atomic bomb was made in the 1940s—was a place where silence wasn’t just golden, it was mandatory.

Rumor had it that one in four people was an FBI informant. Women hanging laundry on clotheslines could be turned in for simply talking to each other. The entire community lived within barbed wire fences, passing through seven Army guard gates. Soldiers boarded buses to check passes. Citizens received free provisions in exchange for their civil liberties—and their voices.

My father couldn’t tell us what he did for work. Not without risking treason charges. Reading about early Oak Ridge feels like living inside a George Orwell novel—except it was my childhood.

When Silence Becomes Character

I didn’t realize until last year how deeply that culture had shaped me. Reviewing my life, I saw a pattern: every moment of profound suffering traced back to not communicating hard things.

A love I couldn’t tell I needed more commitment from—we broke up and I grieved for five years. A cherished friendship where neither of us could name what was wrong—we were estranged for a decade until my son’s medical crisis brought her back. She stayed through his surgery, and years later we finally talked about what had happened between us.

I’d learned early: If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it. It made me pleasant. It also made me silent when truth-telling mattered most.

The Gaslighting Continues

We’re watching it happen again in real time.

We saw footage of Alex Pretti—a peaceful protester murdered by ICE and Border Patrol officers in Minneapolis. We watched it with our own eyes. And now the government calls him “an agitator.” They’re asking us to unsee what we saw, to accept the official narrative over witnessed reality.

This is Orwell’s insight made flesh: making murder respectable, giving pure wind the appearance of solidity.

The mechanism is the same whether it’s a secret city behind barbed wire or a government rewriting yesterday’s violence. Both require our silence. Both depend on us not talking about the hard thing we all know is true.

Breaking the Pattern

I’m learning—slowly, imperfectly—that my silence protects no one. Not me, not the people I love, not the truth.

The legacy of Oak Ridge taught me that silence equals safety. But that was always a lie. Silence equals suffering—mine and everyone else’s who needs someone to say what we’re all seeing.

So I’m practicing: saying the hard thing, naming what’s uncomfortable, refusing to make murder respectable with my complicity.

Because if liberty means anything at all, it means the right to tell people what they do not want to hear.

How do you feel about what’s happening right now? You know I love hearing from you.

XO, Sherold

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